How does a married couple explain to their family, friends and other children that they are placing a baby for adoption? We already had three children and felt our family was complete when I became pregnant. Peter and I seriously considered abortion, but when we looked at our beautiful, healthy children, we knew abortion just wasn’t right. We then considered parenting another child. For many reasons, that didn’t feel right either – especially for the three children we already had. As soon as we saw profiles of families wanting to adopt we started to feel that adoption was the right choice. We just had our baby recently and handed him to his new adoptive family. We were both surprised that we felt more joy for them than sadness for ourselves.